Citiram (Bowlby, 1979):
” … glavni razlog, zakaj nekateri ljudje ekstremno težko izrazijo žalovanje, je, da je družina, v kateri so bili vzgojeni in s katero imajo še stike, obravnavala navezovalno obnašanje kot nezaželjeno, kot nekaj, kar je treba čimprej prerasti … jok in druge oblike protesta ob ločitvi so bili obravnavani kot otročji, jeza in ljubosumje pa sta bila kaznovana.”
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… “a main reason why some find expressing grief extremely difficult is that the family in which they have been brought up, and with which they still mix, is one in which the attachment behaviour of the child is regarded unsympathetically as something to be grown out of as soon as possible . . . crying and other protests over separation are apt to be dubbed as babyish, and anger and jealousy as reprehensible.”

Janja Urbančič

Sem vodja Sočutne akademije. Moje poslanstvo je pomagati čimveč ljudem priti v stik s samim seboj, svojimi občutki in svojimi globinami tako, da lahko postanejo še boljši starši, vzgojitelji, učitelji in nasploh ljudje.